Love attitudes

understood before hand. Allow enough breathing space: Understand that enough liberty is to be available to each partner; in spite of the commitments. It is seen that the three major factors for the failure of relationships are:
Too much possessiveness, so as to cut out the freedom in each other's life.
Misunderstanding and misconception due to suspicion and insufficient interaction.
Unequal sense of responsibility or intensity of reciprocation. While one partner makes the sacrifices, the other makes no, or minimal, attempt to adjust.
The same is true of True Love as well.
The tests of one love cutting the path of other: The biggest failure point is the weakest link. When one love challenges the other, this becomes the toughest time to make decisions. For instance, if parents' love were to challenge your partner's love, or vice versa - what would you do? The right attitude would be to take this as a test of love and work on it as a team.
Love is a game of emotions: Know the fact that in war and love, it is the internal factors that cause more damage than the external factors. The thoughts, the emotions, and the memories are bigger factors to be dealt with; than the world getting together to separate the partners.
Clear misconceptions of approaching the partner wrongly: True Love depends on mutual trust and mutual respect, rather than sensuality and the chemistry between the two bodies. True Love is way above carnal or material lust.
Be normal, not pretentious: Seduction and flirting are ways to impress. And the bond so developed is weak. The day the mask falls off, the world around you will collapse. The progress to True Love, on the other hand, must be unpretentious.
A person is not simple to understand: The understanding that every person is complex person due to his past experiences. To fall in True Love, each partner has to accept, and adjust to, the other's characteristics. A good exercise is to attempt to describe your partner in written words, and then you'll know how complex he is! Also, each person has a story, so do you. Know each other before you reach the stage of making commitments.
Let the emotions pave the path: Love is not by measuring, but by letting the emotions do some guiding. And when you feel it, it is unwise to hide it.
Count your real assets: Understand that in this world of deception and pretentiousness, your assets (like beauty or wealth) are working both in your favor and against you. A good test of love is to, sometime, try a situation where you are left with your qualities alone (without the assets), and look at the partner's response.
Know the foundation on which your love is built: Have the attitude to look for stronger bonding factors between the partners. Qualities of the partner are often the best bet to keep the relationship running; rest all change. For instance, if love is based on admiration, then keeping your partner interested will be stressful.
Have a hold on yourself: Strong self restraint so as not to go to the next person who appears appealing. This will help multifold in being trustworthy, keeping current relationship, and being able to use discretion.
Wait for the right one: This is one of the most difficult thing to do. Indulge, and your chances of proving to the right one will be weaker! It is not sufficient to have the hope of finding the right one; have faith (i.e., blind hope) in that he/she is somewhere; only that he may not be looking.
Falling in love 'head over heals' is often not the right path to achieve True Love: When you do not buy a car without testing, when you do not purchase a house without research; how can you trust your life in an unknown partner's hands? Being blind in love can give you one of the worst times of your life, when it doesn't materialize. Also, looks deceive, so don't be caught in this trap expecting True Love. Give your life to the most deserving person!
Anything may happen: Love to a larger extent dictates what happens with you and your partner, rather than you deciding your next move. Have your mind ready for eventualities, and have the 'fight back' spirit as a team, against on-coming hurdles.

capacity of love

"capacity to love"!
The qualities that sum up to capacity to love are:
Be ready to pay up: The willingness to give something up to gain something. It is still better if one is a giver by nature, without seeking returns.
Be a team player: The willingness to lose individuality to a certain extent, so as to be an excellent team player.
Be strong: The strength to take the truth and the possible consequences. Don't blame your partner and others for the consequences. If sufficient reason says that the relationship will not work, then accept the fact. If you plan to be persistent, then attempt again!
Be lovable: The willingness to adjust oneself to make others comfortable; that is, being considerate. Seek happiness of your partner before anything for yourself. Worry for your partner more than for yourself.
Be trustworthy: Having sufficient self restraint, so as not to run behind the first man/woman that makes your heart beat uncontrollably.
Be ready to learn: At each stage, you learn a new thing about life and love. Update yourself with the new knowledge. It is a plus if you are aggressive to acquire knowledge and wisdom.
Be patient: The thought "life is running out" and being wacky about getting love in day should go! Don't rush, it never helps.
Be ready to expect the unexpected: Life and love are similar on this one count that they often take us places, leading us to newer and newer discoveries and definitions about ourselves, life, truth, world, nature, love and universe.
The qualities that do NOT come under the capacity to love are:
Physical beauty
Social background, nationality, creed, traditions
Sensuality
These factors do not affect True Love because love is a work of the hearts, which are not dependent on any of these factors.

Ready to believe True Love exits

In this world full of deception, most people are not ready to believe True Love exists. For most, True Love is a fantasy of a charming Prince and a beautiful man meeting in a garden and living happily forever. This document is an effort to show that True Love is so profound that it's complete definition is often not fully understood, and the fact that it is a very difficult path to tread upon. Also, this article makes an effort to show where most efforts fail, how to find the True Love and what the final accomplishment feels like. This document has been written after research by the author on how relationships work and fail. However, through this document, the only relationship of True Love is attended to.
What is True Love?
First things first. Most people do not understand the deep and profound meaning of True Love. True Love is one hundred percent dedication of the partners towards one another, and a commitment so strong that it goes for the life. It is the union of two souls which appears as two bodies to the world, but the partners feel themselves as one. True Love is not a one man show, but a team effort of trust, loyalty, security, dependability, love, emotions, dreams, aspirations, and commitments. No wonder, it is so difficult to accomplish!
Can I fall in True Love?
The answer to the question is based on the answer to yet another question: "What can you give to have this ultimate experience?" If you are ready to put an effort, do the needy, be ready to do your part of the 'team effort', and finally give your word and stay by it; then the answer is "Yes".
What does it take to fall in True Love?
Like life and death, True Love is a truth of nature. And like every truth, there are consequences associated with the path you decide to take. Just like life is led partly and partly it leads us; love is partly our effort and partly it dictates us - so be ready to expect the unexpected. There are essentially two qualities that are needed to see and feel the power of True Love in the lifetime:
the capacity to love
the right attitudes
As we proceed further into this document, you'll learn the profoundness of these two qualities. Though given as simple steps, do always bear in mind that a lot of emotions are involved, and that tough decisions need to be made. A goal like True Love is not always easy, and sometimes so difficult as to seem impossible. Bear in mind that while living is playing with your own life, True Love is playing with the future of two lives! So, it's not an easy ride; but the efforts on True Love are more than worth of the troubles and highly rewarding, when successful.
What should I be ready to take, when I go ahead with the search of True Love?
Be ready to take failure. This means, one should be ready to take rejection, hurt, pain, and still live on for a fresh search. A failure in this attempt has so much pain and agony, only one who has felt it may best describe. But bear in mind that if failure is so painful, so should the efforts at making it work be as strong! So, be ready to take difficulties, and fulfill your responsibilities to make this relationship work. If you are facing difficulties on the path of True Love, then it means it needs more fuel put in, more efforts to go in, more sacrifices to be made - by both the partners.
Are there different types of True Love?
A very good question. Yes! As a part of this research, love is not just between the opposite sex of two human beings. It has much broader definitions and implications. However, the explanation of this is beyond the scope of this document, though the contents and definitions of True Love remain the same.
Is there an example of True Love?
As people say, True Love is unconditional. True Love is loving one another for all the good and the bad of each partner. And it cannot be so weak as to break on the basis of a disagreement or argument. The best example of True Love is mother's love. It is unconditional, it is unbiased, it has seen difficulties, it has taken time to ripen, and it is two sided (who in the right mind doesn't love his/her mother?). A mother is like a tree that gives it's children everything from shade to firewood, all the time paying a high cost for the relationship; but does get enough out of the relationship to keep her contented.

7 signs of I am in love

There is no easy way to find the truth behind your feelings or the feelings of another person but there are some tell-tale signs that love is blooming (or growing deeper). If you agree with 7 of the following 9 statements you are probably in love.

1. You know, because you have been told by your significant other, that your deep feelings are returned in kind.
2. The object of your affections makes you feel special and good about yourself.
3. If/when you feel jealous it is always fleeting; you trust your partner not to betray you or hurt your relationship.
4. Nothing makes you feel as serene as when you and your partner are together.
5. When you fight with your partner you usually make up within a few hours and you always agree that nothing is more important than you both being able to express your true feelings (even if they sometimes cause conflict).
6. Your partner never asks you to choose between him/her and your loyalties to your family and friends - if you do choose him/her over them you always have a good reason and it is always YOUR decision, and your decision alone.
7. Neither you or your partner feel the need to test the other's loyalties or feelings.
8. You are more yourself when with your partner than you are with anybody else.
9. If sex is part of your relationship it is by mutual desire and agreement without the slightest hint of commitment testing or persuasion.

How can I tell I'm in love

it is not an easy question to answer. What feels like love to one person may be nothing more than attraction to another. Some people fall in and out of love quickly and often while others are never really in love as much as they are in lust. This can get confusing when you are a teen because romantic love is a relatively new concept for you and you don't know what to expect. You are overwhelmed with all sorts of new feelings and social pressures. They are confusing. What is love? What makes you want a romantic relationship with one person and not another? How does your heart choose a partner? Why does love end? These questions can't be easily answered.

One of the most confusing quasi-love feelings is lust. Lust is a very powerful, very intense feeling of physical attraction toward another person. Lust is mainly sexual in nature - the attraction is superficial based on instant chemistry rather than genuine caring. Usually we lust after people we do not know well, people we still feel comfortable fantasizing about. It is very common for people to confuse lust for love. But why? What is it about lust and love that make them so easy to mix up? If lust is all about sex, how can a relationship without sex be about lust? Teens struggle with this because they see lust in the Biblical sense, but lust isn't that sinister. Lust is about physical attraction and acting ONLY on physical attraction. Love is about much more than that. Yet many teens (and to be fair, many adults) confuse an intense attraction for some sort if divine love. For teens, since feelings of attraction are still new and since pop-culture sells sex and love as one package, it is very easy to get the two mixed up.

Lust is clearly not love. Love is based on more than just physical attraction. Sure, attraction is a factor, but love goes deeper than that. Love is based on caring, friendship, commitment and trust. When you are in love it is as if you have your best most trusted friend at your side AND you feel physically attracted to them. It is the best of both worlds! Love is a shared feeling between two people who have a vested interest in one anothers happiness. Love is not about jealousy. It is not about conflict. It is not about testing. Love is a positive feeling. If it is tainted by mistrust, jealousy, insecurity or spitefulness it is not really love but merely a pale copy. Love is the total surrender of your heart to another person with the security of knowing they will treat it better than you will. Love should feel good. It should not feel bad. Love should make you want to be a better person, it should not lead you to do something self destructive. Love is not demanding of your spirit but lifts it and makes it glow. Love is a good thing. Anything less is lust, deep friendship or attraction. So the sappiness aside, the question remains, how can you tell you are in love?

How can I make HIM love me?

the answer is really quite simple – you can’t make somebody love you. There is nothing you can do or say to make a person who isn’t already smitten suddenly do an about face and fall for you. There is nothing you can change about yourself, no clothing you can buy, no team you can join, no club you can get in to, and no hairstyle you can try that will make a person who isn’t in to you already suddenly notice you and fall in love. Let’s face it, life is not a major motion picture and love does not happen with the flick of a 30 second make-over’s magic brush. In gaining love, things are not as rosy as the Hollywood crowd would have us believe. The cold hard reality is that if somebody is going to like you, and if that like is going to blossom in to love, it is going to happen because of who you are right now, at this moment, without any artificial changes or out-of-character behaviors. You are you and anybody worthy of your love will want you just the way you are. I know, that sounds like another Hollywood cliché but hey, even the happy ending obsessed Hollywood crowd can get it right every once in awhile!

Have you ever ....?

Have you found your Soul mate? Believe me, when you do, it will be very obvious. You will be on cloud nine as the expression goes, just going through your day with a smile as big as Jakarta. To be in love with your soul mate, is practically intoxicating but in a purely natural way. There is no feeling in the world like finding what people call their other half. The feeling of contentment and wholeness, resulting from being in true love, is all encompassing. Love makes life wonderful in all ways.
Being with your soul mate feels as natural as walking on the beach in your bare feet and it is just as relaxing and peaceful too. Your soul mate feels like an extension of yourself. His interests simple continue where yours end and this makes life all that much more exciting and interesting. You can enjoy so much together and time will just disappear it seems. There sometimes doesn’t seem like there is enough time in the day to pack in all the things that you want to do together.
One week with your soul mate can be like a year with someone else. There is such a mutual understanding that exists between the two of you that you barely need to open your mouth to talk before the other one knows what you are about to say. Even in silent times, so much is understood between you. This is such a beautiful experience that you will want to be together as much as possible.
When soul mates spend time together it is like two worlds that were originally one, get reunited. Your hands and bodies fit together like jigsaw puzzle pieces. In each other’s embrace you will feel like you are so happy that you are almost flying. Nothing in the world could ever compare to sharing a friendship and a love with your soulmate .

Finally, stay focused on finding your soul mate if you have not already done so. It will be a search for the truest love ever imaginable. I assure you that true love is out there to be discovered. You need to trust your heart and mind as you seek the love of your life. When you find this person, you will wonder where they have been all your life but you must remember that there is a time and place for everything. When you are meant to fall deeply in love, you surely will.

To be HONEST

Love feels like a game and I hate trying to figure out the rules and play by them. I guess the lesson is that there aren’t any rules (in love and war…) but still it feels like there are.
However, I’ve been dating a guy who drives me insane of confusion. I have no idea what he feels and what he wants me to think. I can’t read his signs.
But what I hate the most is that I like him more and more. I am about to fall, or at least I try to convince myself that I haven’t completely yet. Because if I fall and he doesn’t catch me, I will hit the ground hard, again, and it will hurt. I still have bruises since the last time…
All I want is for him to be honest and say “Hey, I like you a lot but I’m a bit scared of rejection and taking first steps ” or “Hey, lets just be friends and nothing more”. I hate not knowing.
But then I have to ask myself the same question. Which signals am I sending? Am I being clear or am I just wanting for him? The thing is that I have taken most initiative this far. Perhaps I need to be forward again and ask for what he wants. But I am afraid of scaring him away. Yet if I do his feelings aren’t strong enough and by that not worth fighting for, right?
Yeez, I have to stop analysing! I’m going nuts. Why do I have to like him so much?

Can you recover after cheating?

Cheating strikes at the very foundation of a relationship: trust, vulnerability, and attraction all hang in the balance after a partner has stepped outside the relationship.
However, infidelity doesn't necessarily spell the end of a relationship. It's not easy (in fact, it's grueling), but there is love to be found again after cheating. Couples who survive cheating tend to use the experience proactively, once they've gotten through the anger and deep emotions. Cheating is a breach of trust that should never happen, but some couples find a silver lining of renewed commitment and vitality in their relationship moving forward.
For couples who aren't ready to give up, both partners must rise to the challenge. The unfaithful partner must become 100% accountable, for past actions as well as moving forward. There should be a period of full disclosure. The rage and pain of the betrayed partner must be accepted. A new system of trust building means the unfaithful partner accounts for all of his or her time tangibly -- spending time with people the betrayed spouse considers safe and checking in frequently, with regular phone calls and the like.
For the betrayed, the challenge is to express the very natural feelings of anger, but eventually put a limit on it. Incessant anger and bitterness are not going to allow you to move forward. I suggest daily venting sessions of 10 minutes. Seeking the guidance of a therapist will help manage this process in way that's appropriate for each couple. Also, beware getting into the victim role. Though it's no one else's fault that a person cheated, there is a dynamic in the relationship that went wrong -- not just in the adulterer. Fundamental emotional needs were not being met.
Ultimately, there are plenty of examples of couples who don't make it past cheating. The relationship is simply too worn and tattered -- the trust and the love have run out. Or the person who committed adultery has a pattern of behavior that he or she is unwilling to change.
So can you repair after an affair? With forgiveness, accountability, and a lot of heart from both partners, you certainly can. However, I won't lie and say it's easy. Many couples simply don't move on from infidelity.

Love Loved Loving ...are

1.a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person.
2.a feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection, as for a parent, child, or friend.
3.sexual passion or desire.
4.a person toward whom love is felt; beloved person; sweetheart.
5.(used in direct address as a term of endearment, affection, or the like): Would you like to see a movie, love?
6.a love affair; an intensely amorous incident; amour.
7.sexual intercourse; copulation.
8.(initial capital letter) a personification of sexual affection, as Eros or Cupid.
9.affectionate concern for the well-being of others: the love of one's neighbor.
10.strong predilection, enthusiasm, or liking for anything: his love of books.
11.the object or thing so liked: The theater was her great love.
12.the benevolent affection of God for His creatures, or the reverent affection due from them to God.
13.Chiefly Tennis. a score of zero; nothing.
14.a word formerly used in communications to represent the letter L. –verb (used with object)
15.to have love or affection for: All his pupils love him.
16.to have a profoundly tender, passionate affection for (another person).
17.to have a strong liking for; take great pleasure in: to love music.
18.to need or require; benefit greatly from: Plants love sunlight.
19.to embrace and kiss (someone), as a lover.
20.to have sexual intercourse with. –verb (used without object)
21.to have love or affection for another person; be in love. —Verb phrase
22.love up, to hug and cuddle: he loves him up every chance he gets. —Idioms
23.for love,

a.out of affection or liking; for pleasure.
b.without compensation; gratuitously: He took care of the poor for love.
24.for the love of, in consideration of; for the sake of: For the love of mercy, stop that noise.
25.in love, infused with or feeling deep affection or passion: a youth always in love.
26.in love with, feeling deep affection or passion for (a person, idea, occupation, etc.); enamored of: in love with the boy's next door; in love with one's work.
27.make love,
a.to embrace and kiss as lovers.
b.to engage in sexual activity.
28.no love lost, dislike; animosity: There was no love lost between the two brothers.

Do you know the meaning of TRUE LOVE ?

In most cases we think: this is true love, when in fact it’s not. But than if this ain’t love than what it is? There are plenty of things that we confuse with love.
It could be just the basic instinct. The feelings can be passionate and crazy, but in fact both people may want only sex. And after it all the misunderstanding starts, and once infatuated lovers will find out that they have nothing in common and sometimes they don’t even know what to talk with each other.
Another variant is when people lack support, care and attention to their person or they just scared to stay single. Being with someone can be a habit when one simply got used to the other. It can either be a sick addiction or some self-interest. People call all these types of relationship love just by mistake or trying to conceal the true nature of it.
But than what does real love look and feel like? Maybe it’s when two people seem to know each other for ages and even in their previous lives. They can go on talking and talking and conversation never lacks topics and never gets dull. Or people don’t have to say anything because they understand each other without words. And those moments, minutes and even hours of silence are never uncomfortable. True love is when partners complete one another, when they’re together it’s peaceful, the whole other world with it’s sufferings and problems doesn’t exist and nothing even matters.
True love means understanding. One trusts another more than him/herself and feels ready to satisfy every little need of a partner. Two people don’t stop for a second looking into each other eyes. It’s said that two persons truly in love aren’t looking at each other but in the one direction. And this is rather reasonable because they don’t say nothing “this is yours and this is mine” and share everything: friends, enemies, interests, problems and etc. One has his/her own identity but sees him/herself only as a part of the other. Still real love is not a relationship of property. If you really love someone you may say “I belong you” but always be ready to let go if it makes the person you love happy.
Jealousy stands out of the true love. How can one be jealous if there’s so much love and faithfulness? Real love doesn’t long for power, it doesn’t want to hurt, doesn’t want to punish for mistakes, it’s self-sacrificing and ready to forgive other and other again. But it’s wrong to think that true love is always a suffering, it only means that you take a person as he or she is and don’t expect the one you love to be perfect.
True love isn’t supposed to blow your mind, yet it doesn’t tend to get and to possess – it’s a and very special state of a soul.
But the question that true love is still has no definite answer. Do we truly love only once in our life? At what age are we supposed to meet our love? Does it last for a lifetime or just for a while? Probably everyone has his own answers to this questions. The truth is that no one should spend life chasing ideals or building relationships by some model of a true love. One will probably fail and miss the real thing beyond all this.
We should remember that very many things we need to supply our healthy and comfortable living but only the true feeling of love makes life really longer and happier. And this is scientifically proved.